3 questions

Happiness is in the eye of the beholder, but only if the beholder is truly happy.  No amount of money, sex, possessions or stimulants can truly compare to that of a person who has everything within.  It’s like a ripple effect.

Think about that person on the road yesterday who cut you off.  You in turn, flick someone off.  Your drive home is aggravated.  Behaviors are contagious.  I dare you to make little changes like that for a week.  See how it effects you.

Ask yourself the following questions:

1) Who do you see when you wake up and look in the mirror? Answer this inwardly as well as outwardly.  Change starts with acknowledgment.  So does acceptance.

2)When you get hurt, who feels the pain?

3)If you don’t succeed at life, who will you really let down?

So often we, as a people, find ourselves becoming the victim.  Catch yourself before it happens.

It’s not wrong to be selfish all the time.  Get that notion out of your head.  The holidays are coming.  Do something for yourself even if it’s something small.  Try to avoid that holiday depression.  It’s alright to moderate.

You must put yourself first before all others.  You are the only thing that matters.  You have to be happy with yourself.  You have to live with yourself.  Make yourself happy.  It’s only then that you’re able to make someone else happy.

I’m making a resolution to do these actions, however small, whenever I’m having a horrible day.  I repeated them many times after I had this conversation yesterday.  Make today yours.. now it’s off for my cup of coffee.

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A lil tony robbins action- pt 1

I was being nostalgic in the wee hours of the morn when I ran across a statement that hit a little too close to home.

You can never take a man away from his one true love.

Too many degrees.  It stings everywhere.

From the narcassist-   When I first entered my marriage, my fiance knew that I had a passion for photography.  As you can tell from the updated stream, it is a part of me.  That part was put on hold however.  When the marriage dissapated, my photography came back and flourished.  I felt a renewed sense of being.  It is my one true love.

To the dater- Foreshadowing, a woman came into view that spoke words of warning.  “She is his one true love.”  I use the term “she” in loose terminology.  Work, lovers, etcetera… the devil lies in the details.  A short time later, sure enough… that was over.  Or, another leaf turned?  I still don’t know for sure.

To friendships- She loved the theatre.  It’s no surprise that she fell in love with New York.  That was probably a given actually.

All commonalities.  All “you should have knowns.”  So why does it still sting?

Because reality reared its ugly face.  La la la life goes on.

There is an aura abound.  We chase these firecracker moments… we oooh and ah at the sparkle and shimmer.  We don’t want to think about the end of the stick.  All we want… is to be forever entransed in that moment.  For the passion and love of it all.

Humans aspire to be something more.  We want fame.  We want this glory.  We want people to notice us.  But so few really show what it is that they love.  The man that does, is either shun or idolized.  Usually one rather than the other, but some fortunates get both.

A friend of mine once said:

I’m a person and not a possession.  The only things that own me are my passions.-Molly Kurtz

Another business friend told me something equally as powerful.  He said, in such simplicity:

Whatever you are, just be proud of it. -Scott Hartsman

There are a few true loves.  But when I look back at my life, at the constants, it’s kind of surprising personally.  What are your constants?  How have they effected the person that you are today?  Personally.  Professionally.  Artistically. Intellectually.  Spiritually.

Even with silly things, you will most likely see a common bond.  I believe that’s where the heart of change is.  It’s self realization.  Find your heart and go with it.  Weather it be work, family, or play.. live a life of passion.  Be passionate about something.  Be passionate about someone.  Its a highly underrated way of life that so many people seem to lose sight of.

Why do you think so many of us starving artists are so happy despite it all?  Because if all we have is that something, it’s still enough yet not enough at the same time.