I’m going with no.
Why? Because lets be frank, I want to test the ride before I even dare commit to saying “Why yes this is what I’m going to do with the rest of my life” regardless if I’m in an open or poly relationship. For me, sex is an absolute must.
It’s not the only thing that makes the relationship, but its a part of communication which i feel is integral to a relationship that is anything more than platonic.
Because let’s face it. Talk is cheap.
If its that you’re not interested in exploring a sexual relationship, fine. Be my friend. But don’t waste my time and think you will be my lover.
While yes, you can argue that there’s much that can be done without the act of penetration that is still quite enjoyable, it is the means to an end that simply begs to be fullfilled.
I’ll be a bitch and say it- women get “blue balls” too. About a month ago I was getting really involved with a gentleman. He starts going down on me and suddenly had to go. He was there on a break from work and we didn’t plan on it going that far initially. It sucked. I went out for drinks with another friend of mine. I bitched about it. It was a tease of the vagina sort.
If I am in a relationship with someone, and get more action out of my sex toy than I do out of my significant, there’s a huge problem. That person obviously doesn’t find something about my significant. Hell with some of the jerks I’ve dated, the only thing semi significant is the sex anyway. To be exclusive with me you’re going to have to put out. It’s a hardship I know.
So potentials… put out or pass please. I’m only interested in a lover that wants the whole me- and that includes the sexual chemistry. I’ll still respect your morals or at least do the best I can (if you are interested in Scientology for example though, I will um.. try not to laugh at you if I even entertain bedding you).
Selfish selfish me I suppose. I crave to be satisfied.
And now since my roommate is gone, I’m off to have even louder orgasms than I usually allow myself out of courtesy (oh and well being gagged).